There have now been many times in my life that I reflect on as my darkest hour. Not just one. Many. Many, many hours of darkness. Every pregnancy loss, every failed embryo transfer, the death of a loved one. My third pregnancy loss left me feeling empty and hopeless like I was living in a blank space for a while. Yet somehow as I crawl or walk or fall down or stumble through the periods of grief, trauma and pain that turn life colorless and dark, there is someone there reaching out a hand and bringing the light back. I’ve worked very hard since my third pregnancy loss to make my world colorful and bright again. But it wouldn’t be the same beautiful place without the gifts of light coming to me from my friends, my family and my husband. This experience with infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss has created new relationships. Bonds created easily through similar experiences of loss and struggles to make a baby. The online support group I joined (that I now consider a miraculous discovery) has brought some amazing women into my life. One of whom reached out to me after my last miscarriage and sent me an open invitation to her home…whenever I was ready…whenever I needed to get away…whenever I just needed some girl time and a break from my life. It took me about 4 months to take her up on that offer.
A couple weeks ago I flew to LA and there she was – my new friend, my sister in this journey, an open heart and an open hand. A woman full of words of hope and support and encouragement. A woman full of hugs that would carry me through another embryo transfer cycle and another set of holidays without a baby in my arms. A woman who knew my pain and shared in it so deeply, her eyes would tear up when she talked to me about what I had been through. A woman full of so much generosity and sincerity, she warmed my heart and re-filled my soul with her kindness and optimism.
There she was – The light in the darkness – An angel reaching out to me and her name is Carolina.
I captured this photo at the beginning of this year. Thinking I was just trying to capture the moon, I somehow ended up with the image of an Angel. The moon is her heart. I can see her wings. The light of our babies’ souls being held in her hands, preparing them to be angels too.
Everyone wants to be the sun to lighten up someone’s life,
but why not be the moon,
to brighten in the darkest hour.