Since April, I have spent the remainder of the year recovering from another pregnancy loss, exploring the reason for my losses with multiple doctors, and trying to get back to a place where I can do this again. Being on an extended break from embryo transfers brings back openings to my life where I can do some of the things I have had to put on hold, over and over again. But the many months I’ve had to wait terrifies me too. If I wait too long, I worry, that maybe I’ll give up completely.
Here I am, still waiting. So, what do I write about now? I’m thinking something different.
In my extended break from the vicious cycle of infertility, pregnancy and loss, I had the opportunity to participate in something amazing. If you’ve been following my blog, you may have noticed I enjoy photography as a hobby. Photography brings me a lot of joy and it’s a skill always in development. This month, I attended Firefly Institute, a photography camp for women. This was an experience of a lifetime. Surrounded by fifty women, all with a love of photography, and the ability to see beauty in the little things. Instant friendships formed and inspiring images were created. I felt loved and appreciated just by being present and being me. We each got to take five classes and I gravitated towards classes on composition, iphone photography, social media and writing and photography.
Here’s my something different for my blog today. In the writing and photography class, one of the prompts was to pick a photograph from childhood and write to my younger self.
I didn’t want to write about giving advice or how to prepare for what is to come. I wanted to write about our lives in parallel, grateful and fortunate and loved and a knowing from an early age that “I’ve got this.” I was inspired by this set of images feeding animals with my sister, parents and grandparents.
To My Younger Self…
You’ve got it girl—
the best family
cute pony tails
who envies your pink room
She loves you but will always hold that against you (‘cause her room was yellow)
And she thinks you are perfect
But we know we aren’t
You’ve got your shit together
Just don’t say shit to Grandma
Oh, you are only two and it’s too late
Maybe you should apologize
But not for your beautiful life
Here are a few images from my stay at Firefly Institute (located at Westerbeke Ranch, Sonoma, CA)
Photos by CJE